Self Awareness

Creating Your Perfect Work Week (part 2)

In this guest blog Ashley Eder, LPC offers part 2 of "Creating Your Perfect Work Week." Ashley is a counselor and supervisor who believes we each have the potential to create a more satisfying life. Located in Boulder, CO, she works with clients and therapists through curiosity, self-awareness, and acceptance in order to create lasting change.

In Part I of Creating Your Perfect Work Week, I prompted you to evaluate how well your practice is performing as a non-monetary form of compensation. As a reminder, here are the questions for you to ask yourself to get an idea of how rewarding your private practice work week is for you now:

  • Are you excited to go to work?
  • Do you enjoy your clients?
  • Can you maintain your personal relationships?
  • Do you have time for self-care?
  • Do you feel satisfied and complete at the end of the day?
  • Are you resentment-free?
  • Are you intellectually stimulated?
  • Have you stopped doing the things you dread?

If you followed through with this exercise, you know that it really is possible to answer “yes” to all of those questions; you are ready to experiment with adding Satisfaction Builders into your week and you have a pretty good idea of where they may need to go.

Below are a handful of suggestions for ways you can re-design your practice to work better for you. Remember, the ideal practice is different for everyone! Use these ideas to get you started, then listen for your own voice to guide you in getting it just right.

Improve Your Work Satisfaction

  • Play with the flow of your day. You might sprinkle “mini-breaks” into your day (just 15 minutes to get some fresh air or eat a quick lunch); take a bigger break so you can leave the office to meet a friend or take a nap, or work straight through followed by extended time off. Which schedule leaves you least harried and most refreshed?
  • Experiment with separating client hours from administrative hours versus weaving them together. Does it feel more natural and productive to you to chart and return calls between sessions as you get time or all at once in a pre-determined window?
  • Fiddle around with work/home boundaries. Are you happier leaving work-based activities like social media and returning emails at the office, or do you prefer integrating them into your home life so that they don’t build up so much and you can maintain a connection to your business?
  • Pursue the clients who make your work meaningful and refer along those who do not. Trust that it is best for clients and therapists when we narrow our focus to serving our ideal clients, and allow other clients to seek help from clinicians who would be a more nourishing fit.
  • Raise your fees until you feel adequately compensated. Check out these tips on deciding to do that and how to broach it with clients.
  • Re-evaluate your mission statement. Why are you in private practice? Why did you become a therapist? Align your practice with your mission.
  • Seek professional support. Would it would feel good to treat yourself to expert supervision for a while? Choose a modality or style you would like to explore. Try building your own consultation network, and do not spend time with people you do not want to emulate. Get clear on who feels good to learn from and seek their support.
  • Study something new. Remember the intellectual stimulation of grad school? Well now you can have that without all of the homework. Seek continuing education that encourages you to expand your niche and work at your growing edge.
  • Do your own work. Take an honest appraisal of your clinical boundaries around time, responsibility for oneself, and money. This may involve a personal inventory and some existential exploration of what you truly believe about the nature of people. Then ask yourself: “Are these beliefs current or outdated? Do I choose to hang onto them or is it time to challenge them and my own habitual limitations?”
  • Trust yourself. If something feels “off” about your work experience, it probably is. Hang out with that observation, let it develop, and seek consultation with trusted colleagues. Your private practice is a work in progress. With your time, attention, and care, it will continue to flourish and nourish you back.
  • Imagine giving yourself permission to quit doing the things that don’t take care of you. Perhaps start by choosing one thing to let go of and observe the ripples. What happens next? Is it as scary as you thought it might be? Does your practice feel the impact? How do you feel without it? Hint: follow your resentments to find the practices that no longer serve your higher self.
  • Drop the dread. If you dread a part of your job, it is not feeding you. Be creative in your efforts to automate it, outsource it, or drop it entirely.
  • Question The ‘Busy’ Trap. Make room for self-care, including the necessity to do nothing on a regular basis. Identify what self-care truly means for you and allow it. It might mean making lovely meals or giving yourself a night off from cooking. It could look like an hour at the gym or an hour on the couch. It’s personal, and you get to choose.
  • Lighten your load. Examine your beliefs around how many client hours you should fit into a week. Would you be more energized by dropping 2 clinical hours, raising your rate $10, and writing for your professional blog or playing in nature? Do it!

As a business owner and psychotherapist, your practice really is your life. This can be an anchor weighing you down or an opportunity to build a flexible, satisfying life. Which do you choose?

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Creating Your Perfect Work Week (part 1)

This guest post is written by Ashley Eder, LPC. Ashley is a counselor and supervisor who believes we each have the potential to create a more satisfying life. Located in Boulder, CO, she works with clients and therapists through curiosity, self-awareness, and acceptance in order to create lasting change.

A successful private practice is not just defined by how many clients you see or how much income you generate. One critical stream of non-monetary compensation is the satisfaction your practice brings you.

That’s right--as a business owner in an inherently flexible field, part of your “payment” is the freedom to create a work week that works for you.

Whether your workload is in its sweet spot or not is a personal measure; what feels nourishing and sustainable for another clinician might be either under-stimulating or exhausting for you given your temperament and the other responsibilities in your life.

Ask yourself the following questions to start creating your own ideal work week:

  • Are you excited to go to work?
  • Do you enjoy your clients?
  • Can you maintain your personal relationships?
  • Do you have time for self-care?
  • Do you feel satisfied and complete at the end of the day?
  • Are you resentment-free?
  • Are you intellectually stimulated?
  • Have you stopped doing the things you dread?

Yes, you really can expect to have a practice that is that satisfying. If you found yourself shaking your head “no” to some of the questions above, it’s time to re-evaluate how you spend your work week. Take time now to explore these questions in detail. Be honest. Where are you solid in your business satisfaction and where could you use more work? What would your life look like if you were able to answer “yes” to these questions? Can you be specific now, or will it take some soul-searching to figure that out?

Check back for part 2 of Creating Your Perfect Work Week for concrete suggestions on ways to build satisfaction with your business. My suggestions will help you narrow the gap between where you are now and where you would like to be. Expect to revisit these areas throughout your career in private practice, especially as you advance in your career and skills, experience personal life changes in relationships and parenting, and do your own work in personal therapy.

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20 Ways Shrinks Stay Sane

Mental Health Blog Party BadgeIt's mental health month! Like many of you, I've been actively sharing mental health information as a way to increase education and reduce stigma surrounding mental illness. While it's an honor to be in a profession that focuses on supporting the mental health of others, being a therapist often requires regularly going to "dark" places with clients, and that can take a toll on our own mental health. After nearly 20 years in the field, I've noticed that a lot of therapists (myself included) tend to be caretakers, people-pleasers, and self-sacrificers, making us particularly vulnerable to neglecting our own mental health in the name of caring for others. I have learned to become fiercely dedicated to self-care, self- awareness and to maintaining my own relationships in order to protect and nurture my own mental health.

I wanted to reach out beyond my own experience to therapists around the world to see how they nurture their own mental health in a profession that can be emotionally and mentally exhausting. Here's what they had to say.

1. Live in the present

"I make myself more present by asking 'Where am I in space right now? What do i hear? What do I feel? What do I taste and smell? What do I see?' " Natalie Robinson Garfield.

"I find 20 minutes a day to escape from the world and enjoy the peace and quiet." Deborah Serani, Ph.D.

"I meditate regularly and journal about my dreams."  Dr. Will Courtenay

2. Surround yourself with positive people

"I rid myself of toxic relationships and situations immediately and I engage in religious activities, especially prayer," says Leticia R. Reed, LCSW.

Surrounding yourself with positive people also includes you. Kim Olver, LCPC checks the stories she tells herself about her own life. "If they serve me great, if they don't I'll change them. I'm the one who makes them up after all," says Olver.

3. Go to your own therapy

"I go to my own therapy on a regular basis." Dr. Will Courtenay

"I take care of my mental health by checking in with my own counselor when I need someone objective to bounce things off of and get centered or grounded." Xiomara A. Sosa

"I have entered therapy 3 times since my core training. 3 different styles to suit the issues I was experiencing. I also do workshops and retreats throughout the year for personal/spiritual development." Jodie Gale

4. Get moving

"I have two Labrador retrievers who demand a lot of attention. I find a great escape just going out into the backyard and throwing the Frisbee for an hour." Regina Bright, LMHC

“I salsa dance! I rely on the nonverbal connection with my partner and happy music to get through some challenging weeks.” Dr. Amy E. Keller

"Every day I take time to meditate or participate in Pilates or yoga." Diane Petrella, MSW

5. Nurture a sense of humor 

"I try to maintain a good sense of humor and find ways to laugh during life’s challenges." Ashley Bretting, LMFT

"My spouse and I attend a comedy show every week."  Stacey Kinney, LMFT

6. Maintain friendships

“I make sure to have tea or lunch at least once a week with a friend that is supportive and makes me laugh." Nerina Garcia-Arcement, Ph.D.

"I find that participating through friendship in the life of someone outside the field is even more refreshing and grounding than the peer consultation we used to do." Mark E. Sharp, Ph.D.

7. Take a break

"I love vacationing to Costa Rica."Dr. Amy E. Keller

"I enjoy watching funny and/or inspirational YouTube videos." Hugh A Forde, PhD

"Hiking is a great activity that helps reduce my stress levels." Dr. Karen Sherman

8. Catch some zzzz's regularly

This one is an important one for me. I try to take a long naps every Sunday afternoon.

"My goal is to get at least eight hours of sleep every night." Stephanie Moulton Sarkis PhD

9. Uplifting media

"I like to read books, listen to music, and subscribe to inspirational Facebook pages." Dr. Matthew Clark

10. Reach out to those in need

“I do volunteer work with Mission Outreach, a non-profit group that collects unused medical supplies in the United States and sends them to third world countries. Being able to help others in such a simple, easy way does wonders for one's outlook on life.” Sujatha Ramakrishna, M.D.

11. Create fun each day

"I ask myself, 'Have I had fun today?' If the answer is no, then make it happen before the night is over!" Natalie Robinson Garfield

“I pursue my hobbies of photography, painting, and jewelry making.” Stacey Brown 

12. Say no

"I have found that out is easier to say "no" when I realize that if you say "no" to one thing, you are always saying "yes" to something else. If I say "no" to a new client, I am saying "yes" to time with family and a less busy mind." Joseph R. Sanok, LPC

"I hold stringently to my practice days and hours—keeping mornings for myself to exercise and write, using afternoon to early evening for clients, and taking off Fridays for whatever I want to do." Karen R. Koenig, LCSW, M.Ed.

13. Celebrate nature

"I love to spend time in nature by walking through the woods or listening to the birds chirp." Sujatha Ramakrishna, M.D.

"I work in a professional office setting and need to be reminded that I am an animal. Getting out to a park or the beach or a hike in the mountain, or even a drive up the coast with the top down are instant healing techniques." Nancy B. Irwin Psy.D

14) Express yourself creatively

"I nurture my own mental health through my other profession which is as a comic/writer....in writing my own material I get to see the humor in almost every situation and in performing it, I get to bring laughter...one of the greatest stress reducers of life....to others." Jane Stroll

"I write in a journal often." Xiomara A. Sosa

"I take a writing class, so that I can stay creative and do something that's just for me!" Janet Zinn, LCSW

15. Get pampered

My personal favorites are a message and a pedicure. I try to do at least two pampering activities a month to help me relax and to nurture myself.  Ashley Bretting, MFT gets pampered by having her hair washed by someone else. Whether it's a hot bubble bath or a leisurely walk, do something that feels nurturing on a regular basis.

16. Be a kid

Ashley Bretting "I bring out her inner child by coloring with crayons or paints!"

“I spend time with animals and children. The unconditional, pure love and affection from these creatures soothes the soul.” Nancy B. Irwin Psy.D

17. Get out of your head

“I bike to work as much as I can -- this is a 30 minute commute by bike, 20 minutes by car.  In doing this, I ensure that I arrive at work very relaxed & calm (having just spent time close to nature -- hearing the birds chirp and the wind blow and seeing green around).  When I leave the office at the end of the day, all of my worries get worked out by the time I get home.  So, I arrive at home very relaxed also!” Sally Palaian, PhD

18. Process your feelings regularly

Karen Hylen, Ph.D, of Summit Malibu Treatment Center suggest regularly sharing  your feelings with a friend or a loved one to avoid emotional explosions. Hylen shares this analogy:

When you bottle up your emotions, you are figuratively assembling a bomb in your head. Each feeling you bury in your head is you  putting together another piece of the bomb. Keep enough of your feelings to yourself and before you know it you'll have an emotional explosion.

19. Focus on family

I enjoy spending time with my family. Going to the beach and reading or walking is especially refreshing. I take two trips a year with the family and then one with just my husband. Regina Bright, LMHC

"I make sure I make time for my loved ones. It is an anchoring force," shares Dr. Anandhi Narasimhan.

20. Consult regularly on difficult situations

When I first went into independent practice I set up to have lunch or breakfast with a colleague also in independent practice every couple of weeks. It allowed us to bounce ideas off of each other and not feel so isolated in our work. Mark Sharp, Ph.D. I want to hear your mental health tips! Post them below